Moving into assisted living is a major life transition. Even when everyone agrees that additional support is needed, the move can bring a mixture of emotions.
A new resident may feel relieved to have help available while also missing the familiarity of home. Family members may feel confident about the decision one moment and question it the next. These feelings are normal.
Adjustment does not usually happen all at once. It happens gradually as the new surroundings become familiar, routines develop, and relationships begin to form.
Families can play an important role in helping a loved one feel comfortable, connected, and at home in their new community.
Include Your Loved One in the Process
Whenever possible, involve your loved one in decisions about the move. This might include selecting an apartment, deciding which belongings to bring, or planning how the room will be arranged.
Even when health or memory concerns make some decisions difficult, offering smaller choices can help preserve a sense of control. Ask which photographs should be displayed, which chair they would like to bring, or which comforter they prefer. The goal is to help the new space reflect the person who will be living there.
Bring Familiar and Meaningful Belongings
A familiar environment can make the transition feel less overwhelming. Family photographs, favorite artwork, books, blankets, lamps, and meaningful keepsakes can help a new apartment feel personal, comfortable and more home-like.
Try to select items that are both useful and nostalgic. Too many belongings can make a smaller space feel crowded, so focus on the items that contribute most to comfort and familiarity. Recreating certain parts of the person’s previous home can also help. A favorite chair placed near the window or family photographs arranged in a familiar way may provide a reassuring sense of continuity.
Share Important Routines and Preferences
Daily routines are often deeply personal.
Some people prefer to wake early, while others enjoy sleeping later. Some want coffee before breakfast. Others enjoy watching a particular television program, reading before bed, or taking an afternoon rest.
Sharing these preferences with the care team helps staff understand the resident as an individual. Families may also want to provide information about:
- Favorite foods and beverages
- Hobbies and interests
- Former careers and accomplishments
- Important family relationships
- Religious or cultural traditions
- Preferred ways of communicating
- Activities the person enjoys or dislikes
- Habits that help the person feel calm and comfortable
These details can help staff build connections and provide more personalized support.
Encourage Participation Without Applying Pressure
Activities can help new residents meet people and become familiar with the community. However, joining a new group may feel intimidating at first.
Encourage your loved one to try an activity but avoid making participation feel like a requirement. Some residents become involved immediately. Others need time to observe before joining in.
A smaller activity, shared meal, musical performance, or conversation with one or two residents may feel easier at first than a larger group event.
The Activities team can often suggest activities based on the resident’s interests and introduce them to people with similar hobbies or backgrounds.
Expect Good Days and Difficult Days
A resident may enjoy an activity one day and say they want to return home the next. A family member may feel reassured after one visit and worried after another. An occasional difficult day does not necessarily mean the move is unsuccessful.
Changes in routine, surroundings, and relationships take time. Try to look for gradual signs of progress, such as recognizing staff members, talking about another resident, attending an activity, or referring to the apartment as home.
Communicate With the Care Team
Families and staff share the same goal: helping the resident feel safe, comfortable, and supported.
Stay in communication with the care team and share any questions or concerns. Staff may be seeing parts of the resident’s day that family members do not see, including conversations, activities, meals, and new friendships.
For example, a resident may tell family members that they have not participated in anything, while staff have seen them attend several activities or enjoy meals with new friends.
Open communication helps everyone understand how the adjustment is progressing and whether any additional support may be helpful.
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At Home of the Good Shepherd, we understand that moving into assisted living is about much more than changing addresses. It is about creating a new home, developing relationships, and receiving support while continuing to live with comfort, dignity, and purpose.
Contact Home of the Good Shepherd to learn more about our Assisted Living, Enhanced Assisted Living, and Memory Care communities in Saratoga, Malta, Moreau, and Wilton, NY. We welcome families to schedule a tour, meet our team, and experience daily life in our communities.